the talented mr. ripley, dir. anthony minghella (1999) // the complex art of murder: the talented mr. ripley, graham daseler // naples, italy, henri cartier-bresson.
You’ve got to understand that this was 2014. I’ve seen some younger lesbian, bi, and queer folks today going, “So what? They held hands. They didn’t even kiss.” Or people watching it for the first time, saying, “I don’t see what the big deal is. There wasn’t any build-up!”Â
But the landscape of children’s TV was very different six years ago. Like, that moment when they looked into each other’s eyes in a beam of golden light was revolutionary. I was living in a house with other queer people and we ALL screamed and cried, just like this.
Korrasami paved the way for Steven Universe and She-Ra to do what they did in the following years. And, yes, those were leaps forward whereas this was a step. But I saw it on another post, and I’ll echo the sentiment: Korrasami walked so Catradora could sprint.
Same-sex marriage wasn’t legal in the US in 2014.
Not until 2016. Before that, the marriage was only recognized in a few states.
It might not seem like much now, but HOLY FUCK this moment in the finale was huge in 2014.
The first norm-penetrating precedent rarely looks like some great achievement or change. It looks like a small violation of an established norm, radical only in how public it is. Sometimes you use tameness to buy the publicity needed to make progress.
Yo. I was born in 1988.
My canon queer couple?
WAS TRANSLATED INTO ENGLISH AS COUSINS.
Cloverway gave one of them an offscreen boyfriend and, any time an uncuttable kissy scene came up, they started calling each other “cuz.” Another queer couple from the same show suffered the fate of being heterocized by one of them literally being genderswapped.
(Guess who became the girl. Go on, guess. At least it’s not as bad as France, where they became … brothers.)
That was my mainstream queer rep.
Oh. Until this came out.
… . yeah.
I’m not even in Avatar fandom and when those first gifs popped up on my dash, I started crying. I was 24 years old and crying over a show I had never watched because a pair of women held hands.
You can’t possibly understand what it was like before that.
You don’t want to understand what it was like before that.
I don’t want you to understand what it was like before that.
But there’s a reason we reacted like this.
I pray you never have cause to learn it yourselves.
I do actually want y'all to know and understand what it was like before that because some of the hot takes coming out of younger community members make it staggeringly obvious you know nothing about our history.
Like, I don’t want you to experience it, but I really am going to need y'all to move into Formal Operational Cognitive Development and start considering that yours isn’t the only perspective and that things have changed drastically for queer people WITHIN MY LIFETIME and I am a relatively young queer who was born AFTER like ¾ of our population died of AIDS and we lost nearly an entire generation along with all their history.
This connects back to what a lot of Black cis and trans women have been saying about constructions of gender resting in whiteness. The things people say that routinely exclude trans women have been used to deny womenhood to Black cis women as well.
So, to put it another way…
Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps, who has more Olympic medals than anyone else, is a physiological freak of nature. But he wasn’t banned for his double-jointed ankles (that allow him to make more powerful kicks). They didn’t force him to wear special sleeves around his double-jointed elbows (that help him pull through the water faster). They didn’t ask him to remove bone from his extra-long arms.
They didn’t ask him to swim in a separate pool full of thicker liquid. They didn’t ask him to take a tranquilizer before he swam to somehow make it more fair to the other competitors. There was no concerted effort to blunt the “unfair advantage” his natural physiology gave him.
No. We know exactly why this is happening to Caster Semenya, why so many people think it’s okay. It’s racism, sexism, and transphobic bullshit. Fuck this gender-panic fuckery.
This is all true and very important.
Semenya is also part of another group not mentioned that has been hard side-eyeing these policies though. She’s intersex. So it’s not just racism, sexism, and transphobic, it is also discriminatory against intersex people. Who are often targeted and even tortured by policies and medically unnecessary surgeries/treatments to “mitigate” the lack of fitting the gender binary.
Y’all being pregnant while moving into a new house is BUCKWILD
My husband is an intelligent man, but he has gotten in his head that if I lift one box I will PERISH
Here is the problem in a nutshell
Would I love to let my husband do everything? Of course?
But this absolute GIANT of a man after TEN YEARS together still has no spatial awareness and NO AWARENESS that his a A FOOT AND A HALF taller than me. If he is left to put thing away, he will do so diligently but he PUTS EVERYTHING ON THE TOP SHELF and my TINY TREX ARMS CAN NOT MAKE THAT TRIP
I threw out my back and he’s now convinced that it’s his fault for letting me carry paper plates in the house my self and that he’s going to be a terrible father
This man has a LAW DEGREE and is a PRACTICING ATTORNEY
“You have two skeletons inside you right now that is double the amount I have. You are my sweet special Eldritch Horror” - My Husband
Thanks I think?
“It’s insane that we just made a person! I’ve never even met a baby before what do I say?!”
Not worried about diapers here folks, just first impressions
“I’m going be be a dad which is just buckwild. I have your pregnancy checklist but here is my fatherhood check list
1. I need a riding lawn mower
2. I need a white tank top
3. I need a beer, particularly an amber colored one
4. I need a book of puns
5. I need a baby back pack to carry said baby
6. I want my own diaper bag, and I want it to be STYLISH
Kait are you writing this down this is important?”
Me: a lot of people on the internet are calling you a himbo, would you like to respond?
Husband: I am often very dumb, and I do drink the respect women juice like fine wine, however I am not very strong, and I just don’t know if I can accept this title if I do not meet all the qualifications
Me: I don’t know, you lifted all those boxes on your own
Husband: this was simply DAD ENERGY
🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
I can not with this fool
literally marry him
I have great news my friend
marry him again
I’ve read him some of these replies and he got very upset and yelled (which if you know my husband is barely over a whisper) “I CANT MARRY YOU ANY HARDER I KNOW IVE GOOGLED IT MANY TIMES”
Y’all I’m obsessed with this idiot
We had the baby! She was 13 weeks early! My husband got to hold her for the first time yesterday (due to her being in the NICU) and he took one look at her and said
“Oh yeah yup. I’m never going to be able to tell you no to anything ever in my whole entire life. We’re gonna have so many dogs. Oh I’m in so much trouble”
- the oldest lake in the world is (probably) lake zaysan in kazahstan. nobodys entirely certain yet but theres evidence that suggests that this is a 65 million year old body of water, meaning theres a lake that exists and can be looked at today that could have had dinosaurs drinking out of it at one point
-the lake immediately following that is confirmed to be at least 25 million years old and thats lake baikal in siberia russia. the bitch is on a continental fault that expands about 2cm per year and as of right now this lake is over a mile deep. the bottom however is FULL of sediment and the actual rift floor is NINE MILES DOWN. this monstrosity of a lake contains literally 20% of the earths nonfrozen fresh water, it has its own unique species of seal, and eventually in millions of years this thing is gonna be an ocean. lake baikal is a baby fucking ocean. its gonna split russias ass in two. i am 100% certain it is sentient
- the entrance to this fucking ancient bay lake in venezuela (lake maracaibo, over 20 million years old) is the most likely place to get struck by lightning in the world. it gets around 1.2 million lightning strikes per yearÂ
this . this was a piece of india, surrounded by a piece of bangladesh, surrounded.. by a piece of india….. surrounded by bangladesh . it has since been ceded over to bangladesh but the fact that we allowed this to exist is incredible
anyway do with all that what you will. raise your hand if you can tell this is a fixation of mine
sooo….. THIS is Baarle-Hertog:
The wikipedia article names all the enclaves and tells you what the border runs through, including such gems as:
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H7, De Loversche Akkers: Boundary runs through two dwellings, including the middle of one front door (giving it two house numbers: Loveren 2, Baarle-Hertog / Loveren 19, Baarle-Nassau).
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H13, Boschcoven:Â Boundary runs through about 20 dwellings.
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H16, Keizershoek - Oordelsche Straat:Â Boundary runs through a house and three sheds, with three turning points inside just one shed.
Fun thing about these spots on the Dutch-Belgian border: it was ridiculous during lockdown because our countries had different rules about going into shops. So people would be going into a shop without a mask and someone at the till would have to be like “excuse me, isle seven is in Belgium please put on your mask or I have to kick you out” it was so funny and stupid
It’s not actually known if lemons were made by humans or if they were just natural hybrids of citrons and sour oranges. Apparently it’s super common for citrons to fertilize basically anything they’re near.
great now we gotta kinkshame the fruit
Everything about this post is going in so many directions at once
lime/lemon fic classifications had a basis in reality
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